My boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me. Our relationship has always been rocky, there was always problems when it came to him and social media, he’s cheated before, he hardly put any effort into our relationship, and he had poor mental health. Two weeks ago, I had asked him while I was on my trip in Hawaii if he still wanted to be with me. I couldn’t wait to have the conversation with him because I was told he’s been flirting with a coworker and it started to eat me alive. He told me he hasn’t felt the same in our relationship for awhile and was too scared to tell me and that he was sorry. He also mentioned he needed to better himself so he could come back and be a good boyfriend to me later. When I got back from my trip we had ended things. A few days later he had texted me saying he regrets ending things with me and wants to see me so we can spend time together. Stupidly I agreed. For the next few days he would go back and forth about how he regrets texting me because he doesn’t know what he wants. I still have the same feelings I’ve always had for him so I begged him to come see me. So we saw each other and felt like just another date. I didn’t really reach out after because I was scared of what he had to say. While I was on instagram I realized he started to follow many girls and even ones that wanted to hook up with him while we were together. This completely broke me. After, I texted him begging for him to stay with me and pleaded for him to give me a chance. He kept saying he needs to think about it. So when I wasn’t texting him I was preparing for him to tell me he didn’t wanna try again. A few days later he told me he made his decision and we didn’t get back together. I was okay when he told me because I expected it. Now a few days later again, I texted him because I had to tell him something he left at my house. He replied with something simple and then I started to reminisce about our relationship and asked if he wanted me to wait for him to come back to me. He said he has no answer and went on about how he’s the best I’m ever going to have and he already had options. After I replied back begging for him to give me a chance and reassuring him how much I love him. He replied back with he doesn’t want to talk about it anymore. This is everything that has happened since. Is it worth waiting for him or should I move on? Also how do I stop this cycle of me begging for him back? Please help and give me some advice on what to do.. My mental health is declining everyday due to this.
TL;DR: I need advice on how to deal with a breakup from a long term relationship when I still loved my ex but he didn’t put any effort into it and treated me poorly. I keep going back and begging for second chances when I know I shouldn’t because he was horrible to me and he made it clear he has other options and says he’s the best I’ll ever find. How do I stop this cycle of begging for him to take me back? How do I leave him alone for good?
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